Quote Originally Posted by Ozme52 View Post
It's exceptionally hard to create a dom out of vanilla clay, so to speak.

You really can't force him. Perhaps remind him he asked why you didn't come to him in the first place and point out that some of the fear was apathy, rather than rejection.

Have you discussed trying a role play, (i.e., doing something out of character)?
Have you discussed trying a new toy or scene, just in the bedroom?
Have you tried being naked on your knees, arms behind you, clasped as if bound, asking him to let you be of service?

And if you have done those things...

Have you discussed an open relationship?
Thank You for the advise again! We have discussed roleplay only very recently. We have other restrictions: roommates. They tend to be home ALL the time so we are restricted to the bed room and only at certain times....D/s play seems to be noisy ; another reason for the inconsistency. I VERY much like your suggestion about asking him if i can be of service and i WILL give it a try...how can he resist...its perfect! The open relationship has been discussed only VERY breifly and not in a can-i-get-my-bdsm-itch-scratched sort of way. It was more about me playing with girls 'cause i like girls, and he understands that to an extent. I dont know if i would feel comfortable talking about it, but maybe it will have to come to that.

Thank You again Wizard