vanilla relationship, but i NEED more!

[toy_k]

Update:
Well it seems my boyfreind is interested in BDSM/ D/s play. But there still seems to be a "snag" in making it work for us. I have some theories. Firstly, I am having a very hard time respecting him as a Dom. This may be because we are trying to go from a vanilla relationship (where i do tend to have the most control) to a D/s relationship. It may also be because of his inexperience/ knowledge about D/s play, and his lack of modivation to seek such knowledge via web, community, books, etc. This also tends to undermine he statements to me that he is "into it." Since this post i personally have discovered more of my...lets say niche or kink. It has been very hard for me to be honest with him about it for fear of rejection. But every time i have been honest he has been very receptive and even excited...but still it is always ME bringing the new ideas to the table. I really want to find out what HE likes. I mean, as a submissive, that is my prioity. I have shown him this site and told him of others like it, but he doesn't "have the time." He does. Believe me he does. HELP.....advise, please. I NEED this, he knows it, but what is stronger, love or needs?