Have you checked into there being any BDSM groups in your area that have luncheons and such? That may be a place for some face-to-face conversations.
We have looked but most clubs are 21+ and he is only 20....i would LOVE to go, but i am afraid i could not go without him. There is one group that meets that he can go to but it is schedule conflicting. We are both busy college students
maintaining the illusion.....while playing with fire