I think any kind of relationship without the other partner’s knowing and consenting, is cheating. I hope that if it ever came to this, that I would have the balls to end the relationship before entering into a new one (out of respect for everyone involved).

My wife had a friend a few years ago who was having an affair with a married man. I think her friend knew it was wrong, but was always seeking justification and approval from my wife. My wife did not believe it was right and would not give her approval. I could tell that it was really bothering my wife, so I told her to stop hanging out with her.

My marriage isn’t perfect. My wife has even talked about leaving when we’ve had problems, but I have complete faith that she would not cheat on me (maybe I’m just too naive). We are starting to communicate better….or I should say that I’m starting to communicate better, she never had a problem. BDSM and this forum have been huge factors in helping me be more open with her. I never understood her submissive side until I learned about it on the internet. I have always been very calm, reserved and quiet, as well as the rest of my family. I regret that it’s taken me this long to realize how important communication is in our relationship (verbal and non verbal).

The posts above talk about how their lives have changed over time. Ours is no exception. My wife admits that she probably wouldn’t have been interested in BDSM 10 years ago, now she can’t get enough. Neither can I !!! I never knew she was willing to do so many things to make me happy!!

Well I certainly don’t have all of the answers or consider myself to be on some kind of “moral high ground”, but in almost every case I would not condone cheating. I say almost, because I know every situation if different. No one knows what goes on behind closed doors.