Different people have different triggers. Dragon often addresses me as "girl" and it doesn't bother me (if someone else tried it, i am not sure who would bail on them first). He can rag on anything physical that he likes; yes my tits are small, i have no ass to speak of, even call me ugly. (again this only goes for Dragon!) BUT, even with Dragon, if you call me dumb, or stupid or anything else that degrades my intelligence, . . . . things get ugly, quickly.