Quote Originally Posted by Jadetiger View Post
Echos,
I am having a little problem with what you where told. Never and I mean never set yourself up to be a door mat for any dominant.
heh, doormat is his current favourite nickname for me, I'm his little doormat whenever he feels like making me squirm. Entirely because he knows it bugs me...
I've been reading this discussion with interest, since humiliation play is something I've only recently been getting into myself. My interest delights the boyfriend, who has lots of fun finding new ways to make me uncomfortable.

It's interesting reading this and other forums and seeing just how variable humiliation is.
for me, I can be called any number of names with varyng degrees of humiliation, but it's always more so when he makes me say them myself. There any number of fun sexualised names with varying degrees of embarassment attached, some slurs are practically terms of affection, while others are incredibly difficult for me say. I find words to be intensely powerful, I'm a total word nerd, and a guy who can talk well is my ultimate turn on. And making me talk, when normally submission makes me clam up completely - it's hard, but hot.
What I'm finding right now to be pretty much skirting my limits is animal play...he's trying to get me to accept being called a dog, and I just end up digging in my heels and it just doesn't go. I don't know if I'll win this one, but for whatever reason I find that sort of thing more humiliating than almost anything else... he's had me kissing his feet, I've been used as a footrest, had to lick my own juices off the floor, but try to get me to act like a dog? nuh uh, can't/won't.
I don't know how long that stance will hold... I have a feeling he's going to be sneakily persistent about this, but it's my current biggest 'eep!'.

I find that in many ways humiliation play is more intense than anything else. He can beat me black and blue, but so far it's the humiliation that will bring tears long before pain does. But man is it hawt!