Relationships outside of marriage

[annie]

Flaming....i love you honey........but that kind of statement isn't going to make her very comfy in asking for information or posting a new thread now is it??


I understand that everyone is giving there honest opinion......and bravo for that.....

What im saying is that she is uncomfortable in the hostile turn of events........this was not the direction she wanted this thread to go.......

yes........she asked a two part question, so it hard to separate the two.


What she wants is the knowledge...........OF HOW TO EXPLORE HER NEW FOUND SUBMISSIVENESS........IN AN ON LINE WORLD.

And she is being very honest about what she is doing...........


OK, so i will start........

Yes you can have an on line relationship and explore you needs...........just be honest about everything you do with your husband. Let him know what you are doing and who you are talking to.

hugs..........

Thrall,

What she asked was...

If someone is in a D/s relationship outside of a marriage, presumably vanilla, how can either of them (D/s couple) know that the other is being honest?

When is it "okay" to have a relationship outside of marriage? If someone realizes they are dominant or submissive but their spouse is neither, is it appropriate to start a new relationship with someone that is in the lifestyle?

And both of those questions have been answered by the people who posted in this thread. Just as you answered it... but each answer is still each persons own opinions. Bottom line, we are sharing out experiences, which is what she asked for from my understanding of the above question. The nature of the topic will at times create a heated atmosphere but ultimately she has to decide what works best for her. No one can decide that for her. And there is no cookie cutter answer to her questions.

She seems to be holding her own so far... I would guess that if she wanted platitudes she wouldn't be here.