I was only giving my honest opinion I have experance in being in a failing relatioinship hell 2 of them but D/S saved my second one. I do understand not being happy But why not solve that problem before adding to it? I have seen the results of cheating on people and their families we all have and I have seen the results of people staying together and being uphappy and its affect on all involved. Life is full of choices we make them everyday some are harder than others.
Ok now to her questions of how to have a seperate relationship outside of a marrage? well it would take a very open minded husband. It will take honesty.
How to know if you can trust anyone? That is a hard one its often the people you trust the most that end up hurting you the most. I will say this and its something I have learned from personal experiance people who tell the truth well most of the time think everyone else is like them and they tell the truth most of the time.....people who lie most of the time assume that others lie most of the time its human nature to put your beliefs on others.
last thing about judging people we all do it if we admit it or not.