Well,,,

My husband and I have been together almost 11 years, married 9. We "opened" our marriage about 2 years ago. It has been challenge, but the rewards are truly amazing.

I was single until I met him...I dated ALOT, had many many great experiences in my dating life (EVEN knew I was submissive, but never expored that....save that for another thread...) I dated multiple guys at a time, am I polymorous? I believe so, but that too is another thread.

My husband and I define our open marriage as having the ability to explore new relationships, emotionally and sexually. We are committed to each other and our marriage and life together. We've agreed that these outside relationships will not interfere with our life.

For me I come at it from a very practical perspective...

~~we are mammals; Why are we the ONLY species that are supposed to meet, mate and procreate for a lifetime toghether?

~~Statistically, 70% of the population Cheats (defined as having a sexual relationship OUTSIDE of the marriage/relationship, without the partner knowing) SO, why are so many people cheating? Are they all devious, hurtful, uncaring, selfish beings out for themselves? I DON"T believe so. I believe that we are truly a polymorous being, but society has conformed us to believe in a monogomous relationship. We are drilled to believe that there is a "one true love" for us all... All that said, I do believe in monogomous relationships work as well.

~~When we take the stigmatism out of "cheating" and recognize that open relationships are a healthy and viable alternative, we take sooo much stress out of our lives. My husband can never cheat on me..I will never cheat on him.

We both have a relationship outside our marriage. His friend S- is also married and has a family. My Sir is married and has a new baby. Both our partners also have open marriages.

We explored open marriage at my inserting the idea, it has taken a long time to get us to where we are, and still uncomfortable moment. But you know what..we talk, we are honest, we share our concerns and feelings and celebrate each others happiness. I went thru something with My Sir a few months ago that I wasn't comfortable with, and you know who I leaned on? Yes, My husband.

It truly is liberating and rewarding. My husband and I share so much more quality in our lives now! We don't fret the small stuff, we enjoy our time together and have so much more to talk about. Our lifestyle has enriched our marriage (and our sex life together )

I'd be happy to share my journey in more detail if you have any questions. It has not been easy, and some days so fucking hard I wanted to just give it up and "be monogomous" but that is not who I am. The trials are so worth the tribulations! For any relationship to work, you have to be honest with yourself and true to who you are!

Please pm me if you want to know more, I am always happy to share in a lifestyle that I TRULY believe in!

submissively,
ra