When we date we try to find the right partner,whats the use of getting someone thats not into your kinks,I read alot of people online seem to be married for many years then start screaming vanilla, but wasnt the partner vanilla when you both met,were you both vanilla ?It seems the more chat rooms and online BDSM sites the more people are unhappy with there year marriages.WHY IS IT LIKE THIS?and if your not happy why prolong the marriage,to me it just makes everyone unhappy.I am not picking on anyone here its how i feel.I may chat online but ive been married 23 years,well living together and at first my hubby wasnt into all my kinks, but he was into some so i knew he would be the man for me.I didnt date a guy that wasnt into my kinks cos i knew our time together woudnt work.I still believe that the internet has a big sway in peoples thoughts now, because when i was young not many that i knew were into the stuff i was,and i found it hard to find others with my interest..As for cheating,i say Dont, truth is everything in life if you dont have that you have nothing...Radiance